Drinking To Much

How can I help my husband to slow down or stop drinking?

Maybe it is and why he / she drinks?

Looks like he has a problem.
He can not leave.
I want you to look for Al-Anon meetings, you will understood.

Attend Al-Anon meetings 6

Alcoholism is a disease. If he had tuberculosis, you could not get him to stop coughing. I agree with the person I suggest you go to Al-Anon meetings. Alcoholics often deny their problem, unless they are exposed to disastrous consequences. Apart from going to meetings, to tell you husband you are going to buy an insurance policy on his life, because if he insists on death at the beginning, you want money to continue. Otherwise, Google Al-Anon and the name of your town for meetings, and go to them.

You can not control how other people behave. You can control how you behave and how you react to the behavior of others. You can not slow down or stop your husband from drinking. I deal with people in my life with addiction and self destructive behaviors. People know when they are screwed and they know when their drug problems are beyond their control. People just do not have emphasized this fact, and in doing so, you alienate them. All you can do is love them in a second, non discretionary So when the time comes they want to change their behavior (which they will eventually) you still have this relationship with them so they have this network support to help them change. Ultimately it must be his decision.

However, you must make sure that you understand not participate in self-destructive behavior, or allow it in any way. If he wants to drink by itself it is good, but you can not buy alcohol for him, drink with him or be around him when he's drunk. Make sure it is something non-confrontational. Its use is not something your wedding and you will not be there for her, but in the end, it was his choice.

If you do not think your marriage not work, or if there is abuse, first thing you should do is to achieve financial independence. It will be difficult, but money is power, and you feel like there is a power imbalance in the relationship, especially along lines of a financial source of income to call your own is valuable, especially if the marriage ends and you need to meet your needs. If it is at the checkpoint were to find a job is not possible to bodies of women that deal with women victims of violence. It should not be something where you're about to run a shelter. Even if you stay, when you feel isolated reach out and have a support network can make an incredible difference.

Sara you need to look deeply into the question what is the cause of his drinking? Is it loneliness or disappointment in life, or his or her hobby he wants to be the world of dreams and forget the real world. Being close to him, love and respect, there is no way you can get rid of more drink strength or pressure.

Give yourself time and also to understand the problem out. I want to IM with you I want to give and take advice from you.